#OpenLetterToCampusGirls Oshundairo Hafeez (Hamton) @Iam_Hamton
Dear Campus Girls,
Immediately I got admitted I was shocked when i saw little girls in Nigerian Campuses
practising ‘wifely functions’! Despite all Seminars and lectures the act is still on. But why?
Just visit the boy’s hostels and you would be disappointed to find out that
it is now common for a girl to live in with a course mate. Though it is normal. But, it is now common for her heart beat to give her lots of sugary compliment like, ‘you look sexy my gal’ and she would gladly reply ‘thank you honey’ with a flirty
voice and a romantic smile.
Please who is her heart beat? A final year level student who is struggling with 1.78 CGPA! And they are aiming for the next best couple award for the session by the Student Union Association. And she must surely hook with him under the same roof to qualify for the award. What nonsense! It seems that some girls suddenly loose their senses immediately they gain admission.
During my University days and after I have seen that some of them have no more sense of caution, honour and dignity. Back to back, they change their wardrobes and acquire a new set of make ups just to look ‘campussy’ and sexy enough to hool the guys attetion in every joint on Campus. In months, they would start sleeping around with little boys. I mean boys who collect pocket money from their uncles! Dirty boys, drug addicts, who most of the time are infected with sexually transmitted diseases.
Hey! I want you to know that you were sent to school to obtain a degree not a disease. The campus is called a school; school not sex house! You are on campus to receive education not ejaculation. You are here to master the use of a pen not the pleasures of a male organ.
Wake up girls! Do some brainstorming. Your future is greater than the ‘best couple
award’. You cook for a boy you are more intelligent than. You give your virginity to a boy who will definitely leave you after graduation. You play wife to a boy who cannot even care for himself. Oh, you have given too much.
Enough! Open your eyes! Can’t you see you’re being blind folded? Stop basking in euphoria of civilization. You are passing through the fears of unwanted pregnancies yet you are opening your legs to a coward who cannot stand before your father. And when you eventually gets pregnant, he would brutally advise you to abort it and you would timidly agree; then face the consequences later.
What a shame! You may master the use of condoms but you can’t master the punishment of your conscience. Don’t you know you are bringing shame to your
family? Don’t you know that you are cursing your mother by accepting to sleep with a boy (not even a man) without her consent?
What impunity! That’s classified harlotry. Are you not aware that sleeping with a man without your father’s blessings is bringing a curse to your future?
What happened to your cultural values? Somewhere in your heart you know he would use you and dump you; so why are you setting up yourself for a
I want to remind you that you are a lady and one day you may get married. And your husband would know that you are such a dirty bitch who sleeps with anything on trousers. The greatest gift a lady would give to her husband on the wedding night is her virginity less lost it out of (rape) not the certificate of best couple of the year on campus! While other gifts for the rest of her life are her care and character not her curves and complexion! Real men know this; so, get it screwed in!
Those treacherous boys would call you ‘sexy’ and you would answer? Oh, sorry! They touch your breast and you would smile? They would ask you out and you would oblige? Oh, you are indeed a mistake. Am not saying that you should be rude or never live a ‘social life’ but I want you to think deeper than what you are currently doing.
Let me take you back to your books. You are not in school for breast exhibition.
So, pay less attention to those boobs and give more attention to your books! You are not in school for cat walking show. You are rather here to show us the dignity of womanhood. You are here to prove to us that you are costly. So, why make yourself so cheap? I am writing this with both love and pain in my heart and that’s why am sounding stern.
I want you to look beyond now and think of what advise you would give your own daughter when you become a mother. I hope I have not offended you…if I have, please repent.
To the decent girls I have seen on campus: do not be
swayed by these evil. Be consistent and keep celebrating your purity. I am always proud of you. God bless you!
Oshundairo Hafeez (Hamton)