1. Focusing on your ex.
When a woman is in the midst of a breakup, it tends to take center stage. All that energy is really a waste though, says Steadman, because it only heightens the negative emotions.
“It’s really easy to focus on what’s next for an ex — who will he date, what he will do — but a woman should really refocus on herself instead.”
The days of waiting until after dark to drive by your ex’s place to see if he was home, and who with, are long gone. Sure, the creepy drive-by option still exists but social media has made it easier than ever to check in on exes, and from anywhere. Though the temptation is strong, avoid following your ex online.
“The best approach is to just remove him from your social media pages,” said Steadman. “It will only upset you and make you feel like you’re missing out.”
3. Rebound sex.
Getting “back out there” is healthy after a breakup and flirtation can actually be a mood-booster. However, those good feelings can turn sour quickly if the interaction turns too physical.
“Rebound sex can actually send you running back into the arms of your ex,” said Steadman. “You miss the comfort from the relationship sex and when it’s not the same, it can be very unsettling.”