Maintain a healthy relationship with these 5 steps.
It doesn’t matter how sweet and cool your relationship is, there will always be times when you step on each others’ nerves. dating or married, lovers tend to fall off with each other often resulting in fights or quarrels thus increasing the tendency for a prolonged disconnection between them.
Understanding that conflicts are inevitable we need to also come to accept the fact that these conflicts are avoidable and resolvable as it is paramount to maintaining peace and good rapport with your significant other.
If you seek a sweeter and more connected relationship with that special someone, then you need to apply these 6 steps to maintain a healthy relationship.
1. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY.
The quest for who’s right or wrong is futile to the attainment of a healthy relationship, there’s no need to seek justification, on the other hand, you need to accept that things happen and let it be that way. This is a better approach if you don’t want that argument or fight to linger.
2. DON’T SEND THAT TEXT
So you’re angry and want to express it through a text or chat, well don’t, because, text messages are mostly misinterpreted by the reader, it does not convey the message to the receiver in the same way it would if you voiced it out.
3. SEEK CLARITY NOT JUSTIFICATION.
Rather than trying to be right and prove your point, seek clarity, talk it out, talk about the fact that you’re hurt so that it can be avoided further in the future. Relax and calmly find ways that you can both avoid a reoccurrence in the just ended fight.
4. LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN.
Pay rapt attention to your partner as you trash out issues peacefully, listen to them carefully, not with the intent to pick out points for further arguments but to understand why your partner was actually hurt by the issue.
5. USE THE MAGIC WORD.
Some people find it hard to displeasure their ego and apologize for something. well, you’ll be amazed at the wonders of the two magic words ‘I’m sorry’. Apologize instead of trying to blow issues outta proportion, and mean it when you say it.
6. REMEMBER AND LET IT GO.
Think about beautiful moments you both shared: that picture of you two, that function you attended together, that moment he first touched your hand, or when you both smiled as you thought her a dance step, reminisce about the good moments you shared and you’ll be surprised at how you’ll let go of the hurt and anger fade away.
Fights are inevitable in relationships but they can be managed to an extent and these steps will guide you to that dream relationship, as you apply them you will have a healthy and sweet relationship.
Written and published by Isaac Omokwe
Gyant Steps Concepts